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Overcoming Life’s Challenges with Dr. Neeta Bhushan

Overcoming life’s challenges isn’t easy, and we can get stuck in a rut when things aren’t going our way, but it’s important not to give up on yourself. Dr. Neeta Bhushan has helped people triumph over adversity for over 15 years with her unique approach to helping people find their life mission, and achieve peace within themselves as they are overcoming life’s challenges. Dr. Neeta Bhushan is a former cosmetic dentist turned mental health coach, advocate, entrepreneur, and best-selling author of “That Sucked! Now What?”. She shares with the Heal Squad her story of how she lost three immediate family members in the span of a few years before she was 19- and how that completely altered her life’s trajectory. After finding herself stuck in a career and marriage she didn’t want to be in, she realized she was living in fear. That was when Dr. Bhushan started her healing journey which led her to where she is today. She teaches us about how to find joy within the grief, and what to do when you’re faced with hardship. What is the bounce factor? How do you find the magic in your mess? What happens after the suck?

How to Find the Magic in the Hard Times from Dr. Neeta Bhushan
Overcoming Grief

In life, the pain of loss is inevitable. It’s something that everyone will go through at some point. Finding happiness in the midst of grief is a process of healing, not a destination. Grief is an emotion that can overwhelm and disable us if we allow it to take over our lives. When we’re grieving from something like losing a loved one or an important relationship, there isn’t just one way to grieve; there are many ways for us all to cope with what we’re going through and find our way back into living life again with meaning and purpose.

Find a Silver Lining

The silver lining is the positive side of a situation, even if it’s hard to see. Finding the silver lining can help you get through difficult times. Think about something that happened in your own life recently that was really difficult. How did you deal with it? What helped you get through it? If there are no obvious reasons for this positive energy, ask yourself why these events are causing stress and anxiety. Sometimes when we’re stressed out we don’t realize what exactly is causing our anxiety until we break down all of our stressors into smaller parts. Once you’ve identified what caused your problem, try to find something else about yourself or your life that has been good lately—anything from walking across the street to having a roof over your head on any given day will do!

Shift your perspective

The power of perspective is key because it’s what determines how we look at the world. If you’re having a bad day, chances are it’s not actually bad but just another day in your life. You can choose to look at that glass as half-empty or half-full and make sure that your perception of reality matches up with what is actually happening.

If there is something negative happening in your life right now, reframe it into a more positive light by asking yourself these questions: “How could this be an opportunity for growth?” “What kind of person will I be when I get past this hard time?” “What am I learning from this situation?”

Next time something happens that seems like a negative experience, try looking at the positive aspects of the situation instead. 

Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable and Have Compassion for Yourself

You must first allow yourself to feel your feelings. The truth is that we can’t help anyone else until we take care of ourselves. When we’re in a state of self-neglect and neglect our problems, it’s like adding firewood to an existing blaze: the fire gets bigger and worse instead of smaller.

The next time you find yourself feeling sad or lonely or frustrated about something that’s going on with your life, instead of pushing those feelings away (which makes them stronger), give yourself permission to let them come up and do what they need to do—to burn out naturally over time, if at all possible. Be gentle with yourself; allow yourself the space and freedom from a judgment that comes from being vulnerable—being open and authentic about who you are as opposed to trying desperately for perfection all the time!

Rise While Overcoming Life’s Challenges

To rise is to acknowledge that this is a difficult time and that you’re going through an intense experience. You may feel down or upset, but you realize you’ll be okay in the long run. You have control over what happens next, so don’t panic! It’s important to remember that life is not perfect. In fact, it’s downright messy and chaotic. It can be difficult to navigate through the hard times when you expect everything to go according to plan. But it’s also important not to have such high expectations that they become a burden on your happiness and well-being. Instead of focusing on perfection, try being curious and brave instead. When something sucks meet it with “Now what?” 

Thriving Unapologetically Yourself and Set Boundaries

As you move through the rest of your life, I encourage you to remind yourself that it is always okay to ask for what you want and need. It is also okay to say no when something doesn’t feel right or when someone asks too much of you. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love, and one worth practicing every day.

I urge you to speak up about how you feel in any given moment—including negative ones. The more we talk about our emotions and experiences, the more we can learn from each other’s stories and support one another on this journey called life. If someone isn’t treating you with respect (and if there even were such a thing as “everyone treating everyone else with respect”), then it’s your job as a human being not only know but own your worthiness enough so that if someone isn’t giving it back freely then they don’t get access into your world anymore! It’ll be hard at first because we all want people around us who love us unconditionally, but sometimes those people aren’t available so it’s up to us to be brave enough to try new things.  like taking care of ourselves even though they may seem scary at first glance!

There is nothing wrong with feeling bad or feeling like things suck, but it’s important to remember that our emotions are temporary and not stay stuck in the suck. Overcoming life’s challenges is hard but we don’t have to let them define us or control us. We can rise above and come back stronger than ever before!

Overcoming Life's Challenges with Dr. Neeta Bushman

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