Maria Menounos

How to Be Better at Dating with Shan Boodram

Are you struggling to navigate the complex world of relationships and dating? Do you wonder if there’s a one-size-fits-all approach to finding love? The Heal Squad team was joined by Shan Boodram, a sex educator, author, and media personality who is passionate about helping people build healthy, fulfilling relationships. She shared practical advice and tips for improving your dating life and building healthy relationships. Whether you’re curious about different relationship styles or looking to improve your communication skills, get ready to live fearlessly in the dating world!

How to Be Better at Dating with Shan Boodram
Monogamy, non-monogamy, and monogamish

Monogamy, non-monogamy, and monogamish are all valid relationship styles, and it’s important to communicate your preferences with your partner. Shan explains that there are many relationship styles beyond monogamy, including being non-monogamous and being monogamish, which is a term coined by Dan Savage to describe couples who are mostly monogamous but occasionally engage in non-monogamous activities with each other’s consent. Shan emphasizes that it’s important to communicate your relationship preferences and boundaries with your partner to ensure that you’re on the same page and to avoid misunderstandings.

There is no one-size-fits-all 

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships, and what works for one couple may not work for another. Shan stresses the importance of embracing different relationship styles and finding what works best for you and your partner. She acknowledges that everyone has different needs and desires when it comes to relationships, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to do things.

Be honest about your intentions

When dating, it’s important to be clear about your intentions and what you’re looking for in a relationship. Shan advises that before going on a date, you should have a clear idea of what you’re looking for in a relationship and communicate that to your date. This can help avoid misunderstandings and ensure that you’re both on the same page.


Communication is key in any relationship, and being honest and open with your partner can help build trust and intimacy. Shan stresses the importance of honest communication in any relationship. She advises listeners to be open and transparent with their partner about their feelings, needs, and desires, and to create a safe and non-judgmental space for their partner to do the same.


It’s important to take time for self-reflection and work on personal growth before entering into a relationship. Shan emphasizes the importance of taking time to reflect on your own needs and desires before entering into a relationship. She advises listeners to work on their own personal growth and self-improvement to ensure that they’re in a good place emotionally and mentally before entering into a relationship.

Handling rejection

When dealing with rejection or breakups, it’s important to focus on self-care and self-love. Rejection and breakups can be difficult and painful, but it is important to focus on self-care and self-love during these times. She advises listeners to practice self-compassion and kindness, to take time to grieve and process their emotions, and to seek support from friends and loved ones.

From exploring different relationship styles to practicing self-care and self-love, Shan covered a wide range of topics that are relevant to anyone navigating the complex world of dating and relationships. Whether you’re single and looking for love, or in a committed relationship, there’s something for everyone in this episode. By embracing different relationship styles, communicating openly and honestly with your partner, and focusing on self-care and personal growth, you can build a fulfilling and healthy relationship that meets your needs and desires. And remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships, so don’t be afraid to experiment and find what works best for you!

Be Better at Dating

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