Though she’s most widely known as the author of Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert has evolved to become one of the world’s leading experts in creativity and motivation. So many of us, women especially, can feel paralyzed by the circumstances in our lives, but Elizabeth Gilbert provides incredible tools for us to make changes in our lives and unlock the life we were meant to live. In her conversation with Maria Menounos on the daytime show Better Together w/ Maria Menuonos, Gilbert offers the following feedback.
Give Yourself A Permission Slip To Make Changes In Your Life
Sometimes, all we need to make a major life change is to be reminded that we have the power and permission to make changes in our life. This is one of Gilbert’s most passionate missions. On Maria’s show, she offered, “I often describe myself as a walking permission slip. If I could do nothing but walk around the world telling people, especially telling women, that they have my permission, if they need anybody’s permission, they have my permission to be who they are figure out what works for them. To walk away from any culture, or family pressures, that are oppressing them.”
Sometimes The Best Answer is “Not This”
As you look to make a pivot (thanks to Gilbert’s permission!), you don’t need to have all the answers. So often, we’re paralyzed from making a move because we don’t feel like we have all the answers yet. And that’s fine.
Gilbert articulated this beautifully on Maria’s show, saying: “I always talk about the power of the two words ‘not this.’ A lot of times people are in situations that are not working for them, relationships that are not working, and job situations that are not working. They don’t have a vision yet for the alternative, and it’s so frightening to think of walking away from something and not walking into something right. I always say that you don’t actually need to know what comes next. Sometimes you just need to say just two words that I think begin every journey which is: ‘not this.’
View Suffering As A Gift
So often, we’re afraid to pivot because we’re afraid it will invite more suffering into our lives. Truthfully, this may be the case, but importantly, that’s OK. When Maria asked Gilbert about this, she responded, “Honestly Maria I don’t, think any generation will be spared suffering and hardship. I don’t think any human will be spared suffering and hardship. It’s the first noble truth of Buddhism, and I’ve never seen it contradicted by any evidence of life, but life is suffering. Then comes the really big question which is: can you turn that into grace? Can you turn that into transformation? can you make catharsis out of it? And that’s the human side of what can we do with our suffering.
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