Board-certified psychologist and 5-time author Dr. Judith Orloff has changed many lives with her research, and her compassionate reserach into the unique benefits and challenges of empathic living has revolutionized her field.
She and Maria Menounos had an incredibly valuable conversation about the nature of the empathic experience, and if you’re an empath, these three tips are absolute musts if you want to maintain emotional balance!
Eliminate Emotional Vampires From Your Life
You know those people in your life who just seem to suck all of the joy and energy out of the room? Dr. Orloff calls the emotional or energy vampires, and empaths are especially sensitive to their parasitic ways. “You see, the problem though with energy vampires who drain empaths are that they’re unconscious. And you know if they’re drinking, and they’re nasty, then that’s a terrible combination! I would have just removed myself as far as I could from that person, because it’s just so unpleasant and I’ve left dinner parties when that happens. I’ve left you know I politely excuse myself when it’s just getting out of control.”
Let Yourself Cry
Even in adulthood, the world often tells us to “be a big girl” or “be a big boy” when we get emotional, but Dr. Orloff says crying is healthy, and can be a very positive outlet for empaths: “Being able to cry is so beautiful, crying is a release of stress hormones, and the tears heal. It’s an emotional release .It’s a form of connection. No, it’s beautiful, and a lot of people are ashamed of crying. I love to cry. I wish I would cry more.
Learn To Shield Yourself From Other’s Negative Emotions
Empaths are more prone to “empathic illness” than non-empaths, that is, picking up the negative energy and symptoms from others. Many empaths are mis-diagnosed when they’re dealing with empathic illnesses, “If you’re an empath and you have an empathic illness, and part of your anxiety is due to the fact you haven’t learned how to shield from other people’s anxiety, or other people’s symptoms, the proper treatment is not going on an antidepressant, it’s learning how to shield yourself. It’s learning self-care techniques so that you don’t take on other people’s illnesses.”
Are you an empath? Do you totally relate do the three points outlined above? Let us know in the comments below, and make sure to watch Better Together w/ Maria Menounos every day at 11a PT!