You may know Dr. Pepper Schwartz as an expert from Married at First Sight, but she has an impressive academic background that far precedes her reality TV career! As the author of over 25-books on love and relationships, Dr. Schwartz knows a thing or two about romance!
In a recent interview with Maria Menounos, Dr. Schwartz offered three amazing tips to help you in your romantic relationships!
Don’t Strive For Perfection
We have been culturally conditioned to expect our romantic relationships to have perfect fairy tale qualities because of TV and Film.
On Maria’s show, she described a great romantic partner, saying, “there are the foundational elements that you want, and this person has them, you know? So many people are just stuck on a ‘soulmate.’ Again there’s so many fairy tales around relationships. You know, look at all the Disney films about the prince and the princess. Oh my gosh, we’re still dressing little girls as princesses!”
Check Yourself For Love Addiction
Romantic relationships should be pursued as chance to find mutual affection and growth with a person that you love. But so many of us end up romantically tied to the wrong person, and refuse to let them go because we’re suffering from love addiction. On this, Dr. Schwartz offered, “I’ve been that person. Now I’m the person who sees it in others and tries to get them out of it and them from something that’s really hurting them. I’ve certainly lost friends for a time. There’s a love addiction every bit as powerful as heroin and other horrible drugs. You’re in a cycle of endocrine attachment. When you get the reinforcement you’re flooded with the androgens, it’s just a high, high. But there’s a low, low.
Do What Works For You And Your Partner
There is no hard and fast rule-book for what makes a “perfect relationship.” Instead, communicate with your partner, and figure out what makes both you happy individually, and as a couple. For Dr. Schwartz, it means not sharing the same living space as her husband 24/7. She opened up about their attpical living situation on the show, saying, “I have an unusual relationship with my husband. Although we’ve been together 15 years, we’ve both been married before, and like a lot of people, who got married later in lif,e we had to hold onto commitments in terms of where we lived. So instead of battling it out, because he likes being on the water and I like being in the mountains, we don’t live together. We go back and forth to each other’s houses, you know he was just here for four days. I’m going to go over there tonight. We both really like it.
Would you ever choose to live in a different house as your parnter? Comment down below, and for more amazing tips, watch Better Together w/ Maria Menounos every weekday at 11a PT!