All of us could use a bit more happiness, which is part of the reason Swedish psychologist Katarina Blom has almost 2 million views on her TED Talk from 2018. Blom is passionate around the social science of happiness, and she offers practical ways that we work to achieve more happiness in our life. Blom is the first to admit that happiness isn’t some “light switch” that we could just turn on if we’re feeling sad, BUT, we can foster habits in our life that will make us more ready to achieve happiness!
In her conversation with Maria Menounos, Blom offered tons of important tips around happiness. Here are the three of the best, featured below!
24/7 Happiness Is Biologically Impossible
Though Katarina Blom is a happiness psychologist, she is the first person to recognize that happiness isn’t something we can hold onto 24/7. Paradoxically, by trying to force happiness and ignore our more challenging emotions, we actually lose our ability to recognize happiness when it DOES come. “We need to hold our happiness with a light hand. This is something we should long for, but I won’t push way sadness or anger or being afraid, because they deserve equal amount of attention. What resists, persists. If we try to push those away, we’ll feel ourselves feeling stuck and not very alive.”
Find Flow To Find Happiness
Have you ever been doing something you love and completely lost track of time in the best way? Maybe you’re writing your screenplay, or learning a new song on the piano, or even putting the finishing touches on that report for your manager. During that time, you were completely lost in FLOW. On Maria’s show, Blom explained this concept beautifully:
“Flow is when you’re doing something and you’re doing it so intensely and you feel almost immersed into this activity that you yourself you can’t think about anything else than just doing this activity. For example we, often think about artists that are experiencing flow. Or rock climbers, or someone someone playing the piano in this very elegant way are experiencing flow. And the cool thing about flow is that we are performing at the height of our capacity while still being kind of relaxed and at ease.”
Find the activity that brings you flow, and it’s a great way to achieve more happiness in your life.
Foster Positive Relationships
Though it may seem obvious, the importance of positive relationships in your life can’t be overstated. And research shows it’s not having a large group of friends that promotes happiness, but a small group of intimate friends with whom we can be open and vulnerable with. Blom said, “Functioning relationships in our life is one of the strongest factors connected to happiness. Having good, supportive relationship is really important for our well being. It’s not important that we have loads of friends, but just a few that we can really be open, honest, and vulnerable with.”
Any other happiness suggestions that have helped you in your life? Let us know in the comments below, and make sure to watch Better Together with Maria Menounos every day at 11a PT!