So many of us believe that once we are successful, we will find happiness. I know I’m guilty of that. But the truth seems to be, success comes with its own downfalls and challenges.
I had the pleasure of attending the 2019 Patreon Assembly which was full of unbelievable speakers from Issa Rae to Whitney Cummings. As part of the event, Maria Menounos interviewed comedian and internet personality Hannah Hart. That interview also aired on Better Together with Maria Menounos, and taught me some really challenging but important lessons. Here are 3…
You can’t always celebrate your victories
As kids, most of us were taught to celebrate our victories. You win your soccer game, you have a pizza party. You get all As, you pick out a cool toy. You star in the school play, you get a bouquet of flowers.
In the real world, that’s not always the case, because the more successful you are, the less time you have. But Hannah explains the hustle much better than I can…
“When you work in entertainment it’s like oh good we got the next thing, OK. But what’s my job? OK. No time to celebrate no time to think about it.”
But… but… what about the pizza party?
Hannah elaborates, “It’s a wonderful and terrible quality of the industry because it really shows you that it’s not for you, it’s not about you.” Nothing more humbling than realizing the world stops for no one.
So what can we do? Try and celebrate while you can. Even with something small, because you just don’t know when the success might make you too busy.
It’s hard to live up to past success
So once you’re successful, it’s smooth sailing from there, right? Ha! Hannah explains how being successful can make it even harder.
“I was fortunate enough to get my start online, like I said, before there was the concept of a YouTube star. I was fortunate enough to get the chance to pioneer something. To be at the start of something. And oh my God that felt amazing.”
Wait, but so far that sounds pretty great! That is, until Hannah lets the other shoe drop with this million dollar question: “How am I ever going to feel that way again?”
Achieving success means you’ve had a taste of what it’s like, but it doesn’t guarantee that you get to feel that way all the time, or even ever again.
Let that feeling motivate you to work towards further success instead of giving up after you’ve achieved a bit of it. Remember that sense of accomplishment so you can fight for it over and over again.
Depression still exists no matter how successful you are
This one is the real kicker. For those of us who struggle with depression, this concept is all too familiar.
Hannah opened up about her own struggles sharing, “it’s hard because I am someone with chronic depression. Like, I got major depressive disorder bordering on severe and it sucks.”
She then explains why success can complicate this saying, “I’m also somebody lucky enough to get to pursue my hopes and dreams. And make money from that. And be respected and loved.”
But what does one thing have to do with the other? Hannah painfully reveals, “It’s almost like I want to restructure my life so that my misery feels justified. Because it’s too hard to admit that even though I have everything I’ve ever wanted, there is still just a deeper sadness.”
If you can relate to this sentiment, you know how gut wrenching it can be. But Hannah reminds us sometimes we need to fight feelings with logic stating, “But that’s the mind. And the mind lies. And you’re in a constant dance with that all day every day.”
We’re so grateful to Hannah for continuing to do that dance and we certainly would love to be her tango partner.
To anyone struggling after achieving success or on their way to success, we understand. We also truly believe that the only way to get better, is together. So please share your story down below, and make sure to watch Better Together with Maria Menounos everyday at 11am PT for tips and advice on how to deal with challenging topics like this one.